Do any of you ever have this feeling where one moment you are up in the sky. And the next you are feeling 'kind of lost', 'listless'? The feeling that you are just living your life mundanely, routinely? The feeling that somehow you haven't done or achieve much in your lifetime? That life is so full of uncertainty?
That when you think of all the responsibilities you have on your shoulder, the many more years to come, it kind of scares you and depresses you. Because it's your responsibility to make sure it all turns out well. Would you not then have the thought to want to escape from all these? To just want to get away to a place that no one knows you, that you can just live life the way you want to live because there's no one that you know off to judge you?
It's easy to preach the Buddhism teaching, 'to just live for today', 'to not dwell in the past', 'to not worry about the future', 'to just be aware of the present moment'! But in reality we know that's not possible unless you are a nun or monk!
I have a good friend that just discovered she had cancer and she's only 40+, still single. She had given the best part of her life to her job. Now that she's recovering and having a good 2 months of MC, she just doesn’t know what to do with her time. She wanted to go back to work because that's her security. Without her routine of working from Monday to Friday, she's just kind of lost. Now she's trying to rediscover herself, discover her interests.
And as I sat here in this quiet evening, looking at the cars passing by, all either going back to their home, their family or going for their social events, as I think of all the hundreds, thousands of people that are doing the same, I wonder how are they feeling?
Have you all ever wonder about this cycle of life? Our children and their children and their children’s children and their children’s children’s children....will also experience what we are going through now. Is it really 'suffering' as Buddhism preaches?
Life is like boxes of chocolates or a roller coaster. Sometimes we r up, at times we are down. Sometimes we feel the pain of reality, at times we live in denial. sometimes we give all of ourselves til there is none left to give ourselves, at times we can be selfish. So what does it all means... I remember a movie about a bunch of teenagers n later in life when two best friends met up after a long time, they shared stories & updates about their lives. Mainly they are bitter sweet. In a nutshell, life journey varies for all, it has the good n bad times. But at the end, life levels up for all. So just enjoy the journey & the gift of life.
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ReplyDeleteI don't know how to advise her. Because I am in a rut, stucked in this vicious cycle of life. Am passed mid 50s. Still single. Have to work with a boss that underpays me, making sure that he gets his every penny worth from me. I can't quit. Who would hire me. I have no one to depend on. I didn't think that my life be like this when am young. Is it destiny? Is it fate or 'meng siu' as they call it? Yes, I don't have any cancer but then what's so different about my and her life! We are just suffering one way or the other! MY ADVICE TO WOMEN - BETTER TO HAVE A LOUSY COMPANION THEN NOT AT ALL! NO MEN WAS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME WHEN AM YOUNGER. NOW AM NOT GOOD FOR ANY MEN! payback
ReplyDeleteSome people find guidance via religion. Some may never find the right answers and become bitter. So don't waste time and effort looking for the ideal love, meaning, money, contentment. Why spend a lifetime looking for more wealth, material things and having to learn to detach and let go? Feelings of pain, loss, defeat,sadness is from within and because we allow it. Why crowd our lives with so much when we have so little time to savour each moment.Work on what has to be done and let go the less important
ReplyDeleteIt’s just human nature to have a negative attitude than a positive one. Try these. (1) Focus on what you're thinking about. Means controlling your thoughts. (2) Stop letting other people's negative attitudes influence yours. Surround yourself with positive people. Remember birds of same feather really do flock together. (3) Make a list of all the areas in your life that you want to change. Include the negative attitudes too. (4) Take some time to write strong, life-giving, positive affirmation statements. Commit to read those statements out loud every day. You’re making progress, though you ‘t see it yet. (5) Take time to pray about this. Do your best and let God do the rest. Hope this helps. It’s another beautiful day.
ReplyDeleteShe’s lucky. She recovered. Yes life is not the same after cancer. But she’ll find peace eventually. Not acceptance because nothing about cancer is acceptable. Peace, because she still has life, and when there’s life, there’s hope, there's love. Will pray for her. And do something when negative thoughts set in. Don't keep dwelling on it, encouraging the negative thoughts!
ReplyDeleteLife is full of challenges just how you view it. No one will live happily ever after like fairy tale. But we can choose how we want it to be. After quitting from my Corporate world, I started to realise I have so much to do such as catching up with friends, spending time with my lovely kids, be friend with all my bosses.... I finally found my life goal.
ReplyDeleteAttitude is still the main thing. Can we drop everything from Hero to Zero? I did, I survive!!! Just that how you want your life to be. Are you willing to let go the big $$$? Start to be generous to our surrounding, start to unlearn and relearn even from the kids.
No perfect man/woman in this world, lets share some of my favourite positive phases whenever I feel down : 1. "Thing happens for a GOOD reason", just move forward and you will know why, don't waste time to figure out. 2. "What you said is NOT important, what I think you say is Very important", as long as I have done my best, let go, let GOD!
Life is full of challenges just how you view it. No one will live happily ever after like fairy tale. But we can choose how we want it to be. After quitting from my Corporate world, I started to realise I have so much to do such as catching up with friends, spending time with my lovely kids, be friend with all my bosses.... I finally found my life goal.
ReplyDeleteAttitude is still the main thing. Can we drop everything from Hero to Zero? I did, I survive!!! Just that how you want your life to be. Are you willing to let go the big $$$? Start to be generous to our surrounding, start to unlearn and relearn even from the kids.
No perfect man/woman in this world, lets share some of my favourite positive phases whenever I feel down : 1. "Thing happens for a GOOD reason", just move forward and you will know why, don't waste time to figure out. 2. "What you said is NOT important, what I think you say is MORE important", as long as I have done my best, let go, let GOD!
Thank you all for the comments. And this video "http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=1452175110099" is just so befitting 'Never Give Up'. "WHEN LIFE PUTS YOU IN A SITUATION, DON'T ASK 'WHY ME'. INSTEAD ASK, 'TRY ME'. God Bless all.
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