During one of our girls' lunch outing, two of my girlfriends revealed that their husbands are "super clean neat freak". Everything has to be in their proper places, and they just lose their mind if things are not arranged orderly. And with little kids at home, how can things be in order. And each of my girlfriends is up to their neck, to be patient and to maintain calm in the family when the husbands go on a 'clean neat rampant' ranting. Whilst Asian women are known to be accommodating, tolerant but it’s up to a certain stage and there’s always a danger of a breaking point.
One of them has this point of view that like it or not, it’s always still good to have a man in the house, even if he’s not the ideal husband. Whilst the other, had plan to leave and live her own life once the kids are grown.
One of the strong key points of ‘most’ Asian women is that children still come first. As long the marriage is still bearable, Asian women will tolerate…. at least up to a point.
Great subject. Think it's the influence of childhood which is the mother that causes men to be clean or neat freak. I know of a lady that has to turn the clothers over 2-3 times a day under the sun. She thinks that clothes must be thoroughly sunned. Wonder what happens if winter time. She don't allow cooking in the kitchen, so family eats out. She prefer no visitors so that her house always neat and clean. Can you live with such person?
ReplyDeletegreat topic Joy! the more you share, the more many of us will realized that our experiences is normal or perhaps common, and probably some men went to the same school! Sadly, more ladies or men alike are tolerant, and till the kids are big enough, for them to walk out. Question is, when the time arrives, will one walk out, or just remain status quo. What can life be after retirement?
ReplyDeleteHumans are all 'creatures of habit'. We all wish to make that big move. But in reality it takes a lot, a lot of courage to do it....especially for the Asian women or even men. They are moulded by their culture, societies. Most Asian's great grandparents' marriage were all matchmade and they live together till death do them part. Children has always been the priorities, and by time Asian woman waits for their child to grow up, her thinking would have changed. She probably think does it matter now, now that am in my 50s!
ReplyDeleteRead this and have a laugh. And it's so true that we let the 'SMALL STUFFS' matter too much that it ruins what would have been a great relationship. http://hubpages.com/hub/Slob-vs-Neat-Freak-Can-This-Relationship-Work
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