This article 'In praise of slow sex' brings to mind a story that my friend once told me. She was having sex with her man when she suddenly notices a cobweb at the corner of the ceiling as his man was humping away in ecstasy at her. And she forgot, and said, "there's a cobweb". You can guess what happens next. Although I had to add that my friend is a 'clean freak'. Does that make it excusable?
So do your mind wonders when you are having sex? Like absentmindedly think of what you have to do next, the amount of clothes you need to iron, the project paper you have to finish, the dishes you need to wash, or the interesting conversation you just had with your friend. Or would you have answer the phone when it rings while you are having sex? Well if your mind does wonders and you do pick up the phone when you are having sex, there are two conclusions drawn by the author:
(1) The man probably needs to brush up on his sexual technique.
(2) Or our behavior reveals something alarming about the way we live nowadays.
I would think it's the latter. These days, we are chasing time to do so many things. In addition to commitments to our work, our family, we also want to be in all the latest trends that are happening all around us. So we try to juggle as many activities as possible, we go to gym, to facial, to massage, to yoga, to do charity, we read the latest book, watch the latest movie, be seen in the latest socialite cafes and we signed up in all the social media sites. Not only that, we buy the latest blackberry or the iphone, we tweet daily so as to keep ourselves updated every second, every minute of the day. To the point that "we even have to put our mobile phone next to our bed when we are getting ready for sex," said one of my friends.
So do you have any incidents to share when you are having sex or stories to tell? Or do you already realized this and are now taking time to enjoy sex, to be more mindful of the present. Share your views.
Read more at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carl-honore/in-praise-of-slow-sex_b_322026.html
Interesting. I know my mind wonder sometimes when having sex. Not because he's not good but there's just too many things to do. Maybe that's why too many affairs. Once women has house to take care off, plus kids, plus work, it can just take all her energy. Men has to understand that and help so that both gets into bed in right mood. And that's when 'in praise of slow sex' comes about :-)
ReplyDeleteI cant help but share with you my thoughts about it...
ReplyDeleteI find that reaching 40+ is reaching the peak of a woman's life. We now are on this alert state that we know what we want, and we just need to find the way to get what we want. I remembered one Oprah episode whereby a man shared that there are 3 important things in life -1. time by yourself to medidate for self, 2. sexual satisfaction, and 3. health.
Unfortunately, Asian women always puts sex as the last thing on their mind. And perhaps its an area less discussed especially, when we have thousand and one things to do for everyone else but us. Thus, we need to actively and consciously think of ourselves, what makes us happy, makes us complete, and allows us to enjoy the pleasures of life.
hahahhaa... u must be thinking i am on cloud nine! :) No dearie, i just actively try to be awake everyday on my environment, and live each day to the fullest. a friend told me of a book that brings us to our conscious living each moment.