Is there such thing as loving him or her too much? Would there be a danger of the love becoming an obsession? Of getting too attached! One of my girlfriends said that when her man is away, her mind that will start imagining him having fun time, meeting up with girls and taking them home. And as she thinks, she gets very jealous and her imagination starts running wild, up to the extent of thinking how she would question him when he comes back and how she would be punishing him, how they would quarrel.
I thought that is a sickness. Why waste time on thinking of things that are just built up by the mind! I thought it’s just an excuse to pick a fight and to have some attention from him.
What would you advise her? I told her to go out and enjoy herself with friends! Or find something to do, like reading but it seems she’s not into internet or reading.
She's insecure. Her man will run if she's not careful
ReplyDeleteThere must be some event that trigger this kind of behaviour. He must have cheated on her before. So it's always good not to jump to conclusion.
ReplyDeleteIf she continues her silly ways, she'll either go crazy or he'll go crazy. They won't last. If she can't detach herself and let go, she should find herself a boyfriend on the quiet. It might help her mentally coz she'll be busy thinking about boyfriend instead of her cheating man.
ReplyDeleteI think there are lots of women who are almost like her. Once they have a boyfriend, they throw everything aside, their girlfriends, their hobbies, almost their life and devote themselves to their boyfriend. Once the excitement of all new relationship ends, she just can't detach herself anymore as she has make him her live. She is at lost when he's not around or busy with his own things. She starts feeling insecure and that's when she starts worrying that he'll leave her cos she has become so dependent on him. That's why it is important for women to remember to keep your own interests, friends although they have found a new love.
ReplyDeleteIt takes two to tango. If he has been attentive, she won't feels this way. As I mentioned earlier, don't take your partners for granted. Do the same things that you do for her or him when you were dating. Why must it stopped after few years, for some after few months only!
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