Asian Woman 'Live Life' again

Remember 'Cathy' from my posting of "Asian Women's Resilience to Adversity' and subsequent post of "Superwoman Wives, Lazy Husbands'. Well, I just got good news that Cathy has moved out, taking her kids with her. After years of frustration, she finally took the courage to move out. She moved to her mum's house. Her mum is so happy for her and is so ever willing to have her back then to see her daughter suffering. Kudos to all mums who'll always protect their kids, young or old.

Cathy has endured her husband so much. She suffered in silence all his abusive words as she has been worrying that her sons will stand up to the father and in so doing a fight will starts between dad and sons. The last straw finally happened when her husband snatched her purse to take money from her, after she told him that she has to keep the money for Chinese New Year. And when he found that she has money in her purse, he hit her for the first time. Cathy just can’t believe that it happened, she was so emotionally estranged. Cathy cried in silence, feeling that it’s a shame to tell anyone that she was hit. But Cathy was smart; she knew that once her husband started to raise hand at her, it would happen again. So Cathy planned quietly on moving out with her sons. And finally in early January, she and her sons moved out. Of course, her husband called, begged her to come back, saying that it will not happen again. But for once Cathy was firmed.



And after moving out, Cathy was feeling lonely, sad, confused, sorry for herself and guilty. Guilty because she left her husband who now has nothing - no job, no family, just an empty shell of a home. But we all know time will heal all pains (well, almost all pains). Cathy soon adjusts herself in to her new home at her mum’s. She starts seeing all the opportunities.

She has offer to be a 'housekeeper' for this young couple with 2 young kids. This couple will be going to a Middle East country for overseas posting. I thought that was good since she has been looking after the couple's kids for past 6 months. She is now taking care of 3 young kids, which gives her opportunity to stay home. Cathy’s 3 boys are already old enough to take care of themselves, the youngest already going to college. So moving away to have a change would be good for her. She confessed to me that she felt left out when compared to all her friends. That at age of 48, she has not even taken an airplane. I told her it's never too late.

And of course, when a 'single' woman that is still attractive and is now available, sex definitely comes into picture. So here comes a neighborhood friend, 'Dick' that is now chasing after her. Cathy has gone out with this Dick and Dick is a nice guy but it's just that Dick is married. And Dick has the reputation in this town of been a 'Casanova', an 'opportunist'. Cathy feels flattered from the attention given by Dick. And Dick certainly knows that what she needs now is for someone to woo her, to make her feels like a woman again, to pamper her. So Cathy is thinking of going all the way as she's been deprived of all these wooing and most of all 'sex' for so long. It has been 5 years since she last have sex. And she definitely is ready and in need of a good man, good sex.

But Cathy been a conservative woman, deprived from all the fun of life, is hesitant. Almost like our Grace in my posting of 'To cheat or not to cheat?’ So what advice would you give Cathy? Don't you think she deserves better? And that she shouldn't feels guilty at all? But is Dick the right man to break her celibate life with Dick's reputation?

Also, do you think it's a good idea for her to leave to a foreign land although she will be with the family that she knows? I just felt that she has just found her freedom and there's still a lot of adjustment for her.