Younger wife = Marital bliss

Apparently, the secret to a happy marriage for men is choosing a wife who is smarter and at least five years younger than you, say UK experts. These pairings are more likely to go the distance, particularly if neither has been divorced in the past, according to the Bath University team. And if the wife was five or more years older than her husband, they were more than three times as likely to divorce than if they were the same age.

However, I would say that ‘mutual aspiration of wanting the marriage to work’ is the basis for successful marriage. It’s takes two to want to make the marriage works and that means ‘tolerance’ as there’s no such thing as a perfect man or woman.

Read this interesting article.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/8325579.stm

'Younger wife' for marital bliss
Beyonce and Jay-Z (Pop star Beyonce and rapper husband Jay-Z married last year)

The secret to a happy marriage for men is choosing a wife who is smarter and at least five years younger than you, say UK experts. These pairings are more likely to go the distance, particularly if neither has been divorced in the past, according to the Bath University team. The findings predict a happy future for pop star Beyonce Knowles, 28, and rapper husband Jay-Z, 39. The work is published in the European Journal of Operational Research. The researchers studied interviews of more than 1,500 couples who were married or in a serious relationship. Five years later, they followed up 1,000 of the couples to see which had lasted.

For better or worse
They found that if the wife was five or more years older than her husband, they were more than three times as likely to divorce than if they were the same age. If the age gap is reversed, and the man is older than the woman, the odds of marital bliss are higher. Add in a better education for the woman - Beyonce has her high school diploma, unlike husband Jay-Z - and the chances of lasting happiness improve further.

Those who have never divorced fare better too. But couples in which one member has been through a divorce in the past are less stable than those in which both members are divorcees. Dr Emmanuel Fragniere and colleagues do say that men and women choose partners "on the basis of love, physical attraction, similarity of taste, beliefs and attitudes, and shared values." But they say that using "objective factors" such as age, education and cultural origin "may help reduce divorce".

HAVE YOUR SAY
Not so long ago the husband had to be older than his wife in order to be able to support a family, but such criteria are not so relevant now women have been educated to be able to command good jobs, so I suggest the basis for a successful marriage should be tolerance
Marion Monahan, Bristol
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How to beat a cheating husband?

Let's face it. All women subconsciously know what they should do to keep their husband, boyfriend, and lover. But it's that one question which many women are asking 'why must women be the one to take the effort to keep their men'?

Traditionally Asian women have been taught to accept men's infidelity. I remember my grandfather has two wives and each wife bored him 13 children. So he has 26 children. And of course his 26 children multiply further, so you can imagine what a grand, big affair he had during his funeral. His children multiply when they married, so he has more then 70 grand kids.

In the movie 'Raise the Red Lantern', all the wives has to stand outside their door every evening, and they be praying that the man will stop in front of their door with the red lantern. It means he's spending the night with her. What a sad situation then. And that's because those days, women aren't independent.

But then even in these days when women are much more independent and they have their careers, we still see how women can be destroyed by selfish men. All in the name of 'love'. The advise given here in this link is good and makes sense. As I believe finally it's based on two options - it's either you want to keep your man or you don't want to keep your man!

http://www.cheating-boyfriend.net/marriage/marriage-infidelity-%E2%80%93-secrets-to-beating-a-cheating-husband/

Wife wants a divorce just because she don't like his hair cut!

My friend just told a surprising story. He went home with a new haircut, expecting his wifey to be pleased with his new look. Guess what she said when he asked, "How do you like my new haircut?" "I don't want to go Singapore with you (they were leaving for Singapore next week) and I want a divorce!" He was stunned, speechless. Seriously he was very tempted to say 'yes' to the divorce. But they were going to Singapore because their daughter flew in all the way from LA. So in this case, he makes peace. He chooses to ignore her remarks or else it'll be another quarrel. My friend's a 'mat salleh' and his wife's an Asian.

We always hear stories of women been unhappy because of their men. This time round it's the men keeping the peace at home. It's probably:
(1) He loves wifey too much, or
(2) He loves his daughter too much or
(3) It’s just another one of those crazy things she said and which she had said too often that he just ignored it, or
(4) He’s just a creature of habit, rather keep quiet and it'll pass.
Coming from a man, it's kind of unacceptable in the eyes of the society.

Another Asian Woman story.

Read this link on how some men put up with their wife’s beating. Interesting.

http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/AllWoman/html/20070909T190000-0500_127174_OBS_MY_WIFE_BEATS_ME_.asp

Do your mind wonders when you are having sex?

This article 'In praise of slow sex' brings to mind a story that my friend once told me. She was having sex with her man when she suddenly notices a cobweb at the corner of the ceiling as his man was humping away in ecstasy at her. And she forgot, and said, "there's a cobweb". You can guess what happens next. Although I had to add that my friend is a 'clean freak'. Does that make it excusable?

So do your mind wonders when you are having sex? Like absentmindedly think of what you have to do next, the amount of clothes you need to iron, the project paper you have to finish, the dishes you need to wash, or the interesting conversation you just had with your friend. Or would you have answer the phone when it rings while you are having sex? Well if your mind does wonders and you do pick up the phone when you are having sex, there are two conclusions drawn by the author:

(1) The man probably needs to brush up on his sexual technique.
(2) Or our behavior reveals something alarming about the way we live nowadays.

I would think it's the latter. These days, we are chasing time to do so many things. In addition to commitments to our work, our family, we also want to be in all the latest trends that are happening all around us. So we try to juggle as many activities as possible, we go to gym, to facial, to massage, to yoga, to do charity, we read the latest book, watch the latest movie, be seen in the latest socialite cafes and we signed up in all the social media sites. Not only that, we buy the latest blackberry or the iphone, we tweet daily so as to keep ourselves updated every second, every minute of the day. To the point that "we even have to put our mobile phone next to our bed when we are getting ready for sex," said one of my friends.

So do you have any incidents to share when you are having sex or stories to tell? Or do you already realized this and are now taking time to enjoy sex, to be more mindful of the present. Share your views.

Read more at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carl-honore/in-praise-of-slow-sex_b_322026.html

Women's Growing Love of Porn!

So women are watching more porn’s and loving it these days? Interesting especially when Asian women are perceived to be more conservative. Asian women always seems to carry that demure, shy look that makes the man feels weak and want to protect them. Has this change or maybe just the China women that still try to portray that demure, shy, sweet looking, soft-spoken damsels in distress? And would you openly admit that you love watching porn or you watch you prior to sex to get some excitement. Personally I don't feel anything now compared to those younger days when I was just exposed to porn. Now I would say that 'descriptive words' works better, hence, maybe reading porn might be more interesting. Share your thoughts.

http://therumpus.net/2009/07/ladies-love-of-porn-is-changing-the-market/

Do Asian Women do Dumb or Irritional Things?

Have you ever wonder how and why ordinary people do unusual things, things that seem alien to their natures. And why good people can sometimes act evil? Why smart people sometimes do dumb or irrational things? The link to this article is interesting and I agreed to point 1 where we at times can be carried away by the 'cover' of the acquaintance that we let ourselves be carried away by the beauty of the person. We will choose to ignore our intelligent judgement or our inner judgement that rings the alarm bell, as we by nature are creatures of sight and hearing.

And with so many quality myths on Asian Women, would you say that Asian Women could get away by the virtue of the myths?

http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/11/10-piercing-insights-into-human-nature.php