Make your New Year Resolution Yet?

It’s the time of the year again, to reflect on what we have achieved for the year, on what we have yet to do, what we could have done better. Another New Year Resolution.

How many times have you written these New Year Resolutions very seriously, thinking it through thoroughly and yet by end year, we realized that we actually had not done what we set to achieve. And then we repeat the same resolutions again for the coming New Year, telling ourselves we’ll do it this year.

Well, I sure am one of them. So for this year, I am thinking in the line of ‘To live a much more positive, healthier living lifestyle.’ Which means:

“TO LIVE SIMPLE.
TO BE IN THE PRESENT.
TO ALWAYS COUNT MY BLESSINGS.”

It won’t be easy cos we have been conditioned since young to aspire for better things, and everyone’s chasing after the same dream, where we are measured by ‘how big’, ‘how branded’, ‘how many’, and not by ‘how happy and carefree’ we are.

So the vicious cycle starts again, all wanting to achieve the best of all materialistic things, to want more and more, to continue to be stressed! When what we have already is so much more valuable – great kids/family, supportive relatives, and wonderful friends.

So what is your resolution this year? Would you not want to make it simple?
In ending this post, I like to share this wonderful quote with all of you.

OUR ATTITUDE DEFINES LIFE

Life is Best for those who want to Live it,
Life is Difficult for those who want to Analyze it,
Life is worst for those who want to Criticize it,
Our Attitude Defines Life...

ENJOY YOUR LIFE

Laugh so Hard That even Sorrow Smiles at You,
Live Life so Well That even Death Loves to see you Alive,
Fight so Hard That even Fate accepts its Defeat...

HAPPY NEW YEAR.22 Great New Year's resolutions (and 6 pretty good ones). (GL Life).(Brief Article): An article from: Girls' Life

Why men cheat? Want to know more of cheating men?

HERE WE GO AGAIN. TIGER & HIS AFFAIRS. "Why would a man who has everything -- a beautiful wife, loving family, a fortune estimated at $1 billion -- endanger it all to have affairs with women that don't hold a candle to his wife?"

And this article by Jed Diamond, once again try to find excuses for men to cheat. Blaming it on the evolution, men's Y chromosome. That men will be men, that it's a men's thing. That "men are dumb beasts and all they want is sex." And so most men are just wondering what are all the uproar is about. "You can't expect a man to have sex with only one woman. It's not natural." WHAT BULLSHIT!

And he mentioned that all cultures seem to agree that "men consistently express a fondness for youthful women - full lips, clear and smooth skin, clear eyes, lustrous hair, and good muscle tone, these women are universally sought after."

IT IS JUST SO UNFAIR. WOMEN SACRIFICE SO MUCH, TO GIVE A HEIR TO THEIR MEN, AND IN THE PROGRESS, LOSING THEIR YOUTHFUL BEAUTY JUST TO ENSURE HIS GENE IS CARRY ON.

SO WOULD A FATHER FEEL HAPPY WHEN AN OLDER MAN, OLDER THEN HIM, SEX UP WITH HIS DAUGHTER? AFTER ALL SHE'S YOUTHFUL RIGHT? SO IF THEY DON'T LIKE THE IDEA, THEN THEY SHOULD NOT BE FXXXXXX OTHER MEN'S YOUTHFUL DAUGHTER!

The Asian women on the other hand thinks that 'it's better not to know of his affairs. Asian women believe that 'what you don't know, it doesn't hurt'. Is that why our men know that he can get away with it. Because women themselves let them get away with it? I too, am guilty of it.

PS: IF YOU WANT TO READ MORE OF THIS ARTICLE THAT SEEMS TO GIVE THE IMPRESSION THAT "MEN ARE JUST USELESS, JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO THINK ONCE THEIR SMALL HEAD IS IN CONTROL" COPY AND PASTE THE LINK!

http://www.thirdage.com/personal-growth/tiger-transgresses-5-little-known-secrets-to-why-good-men-cheat?page=0%2C0&utm_medium=email&utm_source=nl_relationships-love_20091224&utm_campaign=thirdage

Christmas Story

It's Christmas Eve. Christmas always seems to evoke a sentimental feeling in me. I feel for things more, I get teary more easily. Christmas or sentimental type of songs gets me emotional. Why is it so? I still can't really find the answer; maybe it’s the tune of the Christmas song...so touching and so sentimental.

I grew up with the conditioning of a Chinese conservative family where Christmas is kind of unheard of. Maybe it's was then in the early 80s and we were living in a village. I only knew of Christmas after I married and have kids of my own.

I remember the surprise and astonishment it brings to my parents when they saw that I had Christmas tree at home and had presents for them. It was unheard off, coming from a Taoism tradition. And soon it becomes a tradition that I would put up Christmas tree and have Christmas presents for them and the kids. But the gesture is never reciprocal. Is it a Chinese thing or is it just my family thing that my sisters didn't get the idea to buy presents in return? And so it continues with me taking the lead each year. It's not the presents that matter but it's just the joy of giving and receiving. It's the thought that counts and not so much the value of the present.

And amongst friends, it's actually the surprise on what's in the box as Christmas is somehow a time when you actually would buy present that you know your love ones, your family, or your friends will like. I remembered last year, my friend from Perth asked me what is my favorite color. Honestly I told her it's black...thinking that it's probably negligee she's thinking off. And what a big surprise when she bought me a 'humungous black vibrator' in the shape of a penis of course :-). But don't get me wrong here; I still am not quite sure why my friend would think I need this humungous black vibrator though!

Now that the kids are big, I somehow have lost the interest to put up Christmas tree at home. And we moved on to celebrate it as a party with exchanging of presents of course!

Care to share any of your own Christmas story?

Merry Christmas. Wishing each and every one of you and your family a Blessed Christmas.

Men & their Testosterone - Higher T means Higher needs

ANY OF YOU KNOW OF THIS? THAT HIGHER TESTOSTERONE MEANS 'HIGHER SEX'? AND DOES THIS MEAN YOUR MAN CAN USE THIS AS A GOOD EXCUSE. THAT IT'S BECAUSE OF HIS 'HIGH TESTOSTERONE; HE CAN'T CONTROL HIMSELF FOR DESIRING TO BED EVERY WOMEN IN TOWN?

HOWEVER, IF YOU ARE IN NEED OF SEXUALLY CHARGED MAN, CHECK OUT HIS RING FINGER. 'THE LONGER THE BETTER' :-). NOW I AM GOING TO LOOK AT MAN DIFFERENT...HIS RING FINGER INSTEAD OF HIS ASS...HEHEHE.

BELOW ARE SOME EXCERPTS FROM THE ARTICLE. FOR MORE DETAILED READING, COPY & PASTE THIS LINK.

http://www.thirdage.com/mens-health/tiger-testosterone-why-high-t-guys-are-bad?page=0%2C0&utm_medium=email&utm_source=nl_community-connections_20091221&utm_campaign=thirdage

"That testosterone is the most central in treating the Irritable Male Syndrome. It is credited with making men strong, shrinking their bellies, protecting their heart, and boosting sexual desire in both men and women. Larrian Gillespie, M.D., an authority on male and female hormonal changes says that it is testosterone that helps men stay "forever strong, forever young." She calls it the "Holy Grail of manhood."

The ratio between index and ring finger is believed to be linked to exposure to the male hormone testosterone in the womb. On average, men tend to have longer ring fingers and women longer index fingers. The higher the testosterone, the greater the length of the ring finger and the more "masculine" the resulting child -- whether male or female. The longest ring finger is known as the "Casanova pattern".

If high T is good, well higher T must be even better, and why not go for the highest T possible. In fact this seemed to be the attitude of many men in a study conducted by Robert S. Tan, M.D. He asked the men this question -- "If the doctor told you that your testosterone levels were normal, would you still want a testosterone shot?" Tan said he was surprised by their response. "Almost half (48%) said YES, implying that there is never too much of a good thing!"

Although many men don't want to admit it, we too are glad to be driven less by our one-eyed friend. "It's nice not to be led around by my cock," one 60 year-old man told me. "It seems that my whole life has been driven by my need to succeed so that I could get an attractive woman to pay attention to me. Once I had one, I felt I had to keep driving myself to prove to her I was worthy of her attention. Meanwhile I was always being drawn like a magnet to younger and prettier women. I know it may seem unmanly to say it, but I'm happy to feel less sexually driven. I can finally think about what I really want to do with my life."

What's the secret of keeping that 'love' after walking down the aisle

An article from Washington Post, titled STAYING POWER, asked some couples on how they keep their love alive...beyond the wedding bells where newly wed couple will begin their next chapter of their life together. Such as buying a first home together, starting a family or simply getting to know each other as husband and wife first, and taking everything else one day at a time.

Along with the 'I dos', there may also be some unforeseen challenges. From financial hardships to stressful jobs and even the deaths of children, these types of trying situations can strain a relationship. How can newly married couples expect to make it work not just in the good, but also the bad times?

Here's some advice.

A PERFECT MIX - ANN HAND
After 57 years of marriage, Ann Hand says, "Find someone you respect deeply." The long-time jeweler for politicians and presidential first ladies is married to lawyer Lloyd Hand. "If you respect your mate and love and cherish them, that's a magical combination." The couple lives in the District and have raised five children, two of whom are deceased.

THE SWEET LIFE - WARREN BROWN
It's been almost a year since CakeLove owner Warren Brown tied the knot. So far, marriage has been -- what else? -- a cake walk. "It's all good," he says. While Brown doesn't have any specific words of wisdom, he has a newfound appreciation for the emotional and legal connection he now shares with his wife. "There's even more depth of feeling since we've been married. I think it's something that should be available to everyone regardless [of sexual orientation]," he says. "I don't think anyone should be refused the opportunity to express and receive unconditional love."

And that form of expression doesn't have to be extravagant. Giving each other a high-five after a workout or cooking dinner are all forms of 'I love you' in his household.

A SENSE OF SELF - DAVID C. DRISKELL
For renowned painter and art collector David C. Driskell, focusing on personal growth is just as important as spending time nurturing a commitment to your partner. "Have a centering which is based in faith and general civility," he mentions. One's journey for self-improvement, however, shouldn't trump spousal or family needs. "It's important to look at your time in the sense of how scheduled activities [relate] to family, to faith based institutions, to education and health issues."

Juggling so many of his own goals in addition to being a husband, Driskell and his wife of nearly 58 years, Thelma, find that communication is vital to staying on the same page. The couple has two children, five grandchildren and two great-grandchildren.

SO WHAT IS YOUR SECRET IN KEEPING A MARRIAGE ALIVE? OR WHAT DO YOU THINK IT SHOULD BE? For me, I believe these few key factors are crucial for a relationship to survive:

(1) Communications - couples must be able to talk to each other, just about anything without fear of been judge at by their other half.

(2) Interests - Partners don't need to have complete same interests but at least there should be a few similar interests.

(3) Comfortability - 'physical comfortability'. And also 'mental comfortability' where each can be doing their own things yet mentally they are at ease with each other.

(4) Laughter - sadly lots of couple forgot to laugh once the chores and responsibilities kick in.

(5) COMMITTED - if both are committed, half the battle's won.

Why Chinese women are the most difficult to seduce?

I just read a comment that of all the Asian women, Chinese women are the most difficult to seduce? So what should men do and say if they want to seduce a Chinese Woman?

The 'believe' is that Chinese woman are still into this traditional 'courtship'. To get to know each other better first, know more of you, your family background, your history, your school, jobs, financials....etc. 'Face value' is still the key in any Chinese. A Chinese woman would not be seen dating a man whom is of lesser status then her.

And when a Chinese woman starts dating, you bet that her whole family has a say in the man. And if her family disapproves, it is very likely that the relationship will ends...maybe not immediate but usually eventually.

So is it true that the first step to date a Chinese woman get her family approval first? And that once you have her family support, you are already one foot into her heart?

Still going steady, are you?

I like this article 'Still going steady'. (Copy & Paste this link "http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/12/04/AR2009120403221.html?referrer%3Demailarticle").

For those good old days, remember how our life partnership routine would be "from childhood or school or college courtship to the altar". How it would usually involve as many as four pieces of jewelry, all hers: "You dated, then went steady and wore a friendship ring on a chain around your neck; then you were possibly pinned with his fraternity emblem (though this practice was falling off a bit); then engaged; then married. And all by age 22 or mid 20s."

Well that's what happens to my class of 1979. Most of my school friends did married their secondary school sweetheart and till now they are still together as the saying goes 'for better or worst'.

Whilst most these days, be it Western or Asian has evolve from this but the Asian's values somehow is still prevalent. To the Asian, family is still the priority and women usually sacrifice their youth by staying on a bad marriage for the sake of their young children. It's all part of the Asian's upbringing where the daughters are conditioned from young age by the mothers - that it's acceptable for men to stray as long he brings back the dough!

Despite all that is said about women's lib, it's still happening, women are still accepting.

Asian wife acccepts infidelity?

As usual a group of us were chit chatting. And this particular topic caught my interest. My friend told me that one of her office colleague discovered that her husband cheated on her when she went for a short trip. She did sensed something was not right when she came home. Her home was too clean which is unusual as she knows her husband is not a neat person. True enough 3 days later as she was finally into the final cleaning of the house, she found 2 ribbed condom packagings and 1 unused open condom. Her husband was careless and must have forgotten that he just threw it into an unused dustbin. She was devastated. Her husband was the most loving man and she thought they had a perfect relationship. Sex was good and they communicate well. She tried to find excuses that it's probably just sex. And like how a cat can't resist a fish, her husband is afterall like any other normal man.

She questioned herself, would it do any good if she was to question him? Was she going to leave him just because of this? But then if she kept quiet, would her husband continue with the relationship and it might just gets too deep? And as she start recounting the days since she's back, she realised that her husband had seen her lover again as there was an evening when he came home with his tie not probably tied which as she thought was unusual.

My friend told her that it could really be just a one off sex and confronting it would start the first distrust in their marriage. But ignoring it might just give her husband more freedom which might be too late if feelings are involved. So she told her to give herself a few days or weeks more, to observe her husband to see if there's anything unusual with his behaviour. And if she continues to have sleepless night, then she might as well face it and question him. So that she can have a normal life again, with or without him. Time always heals.

Personally I still can't accept the fact that men are accepted to just had sex as there's no feelings involved. All in the excuse that they can't control that moment of lust. If they love their partners, would they not think before they act. Would women be forgiven if women too can give in to lust?

And again, it's this Asian wife conditioning, that infidelity by husband is acceptable as long they bring home the dough! A Western wife would have raise hell already!

Expression of Love

My friend just shared with me this poem, written by her new boyfriend. She felt heartbroken as she thought that her boyfriend only think of her as sex object. Personally I felt the same as he could have written it with a bit of style, class with some love or romantic intonations instead of just straight vulgarity. Think the boyfriend must be very horny when he wrote this :-). What do any of you think?

WHITE SUGAR
White sugar, white sugar
Give me your lips.
Then give me your tongue,
Then give me your drips.

You are my possession,
Open your holes
To hot semen jets
When I take control.

White sugar, white sugar
Give me your tits.
I'll suck your nipples
Each time you submit.

Lay down, spread wide, prepare
love tunnel slut.
Your butterfly wings
Will flutter on nuts.

White sugar, white sugar,
Give me your heart.
I have your body,
Now soul must impart.

My candy orgasm
cums so abrupt.
Sweet love envelopes,
each time we erupt.