Tiger Woods' affairs are excusable?

So what do you all think about Tiger Woods' action and his recent apology? Someone explained to me Tiger's theory in doing what he did. That he can't be blamed for having different girls at different port. Mainly because wife is not with him, now having to look after the children. And Tiger needs to distress himself before game, as he plays better after sex. And with his schedule of flying from one country to another so frequently, how many times would he had chance to have sex with his wife. So that's why it's excusable for Tiger to find other girls to release himself!



It's an interesting theory and even if it's excusable for his action but then his choice of girls certainly aren't very impressive. Maybe that's why it seems like Tiger needs Elin more then she needs him.

So what do you all think of this theory? Is it excusable for man to cheat on wife/partner just because the wife/partner is not available when he's in need of sex? Would you forgive your partner if he/she confesses one day that he/she’s so horny that he/she just have to cheat because you are not there?

I think most Asian wives know that having 'girlfriend(s)' are common amongst the successful businessmen. And for some, they would turn a blind eye to this affair, as long it doesn't rock her comfort zone. But then to have up to 19 or more girlfriends, I would see it as making a laughing stock out of the wife.

http://tv.yahoo.com/blog/reactions-to-tigers-speech-divided-along-gender-lines--1004

The Chinese New Year Tradition, The Quirks, The Tolerance of Husbands & Wives

Finally am able to start writing on my new posting. Boy….am so glad Chinese New Year's finally here. Although it’s just the fourth day of New Year but am so, so glad that the preparation is done. It’s amazing how the Chinese goes all the way out to prepare for the New Year celebration.

There’s this Chinese proverb that states that all creations are reborn on New Year’s Day. Hence, the Chinese New Year is a celebration of change ... out with the old and in with the new!

Hardcore Chinese believe that events that occurred during the New Year celebration may impact their life for the rest of the year. So during the New Year, be more careful with your speech, actions, even your thoughts. Not only that, the type of food you eat is important too. That’s why there’s abundance of good food during New Year. Red is auspicious, represents prosperity, which is why some believe that all red, even the underwear will starts the New Year prosperous. And surround your house with colours of red, gold or yellow to stimulate positive energy all around you and your family.



Everything associated with the New Year must represent good fortune. To single people, good fortune may mean love and romance. Good fortune may mean good grades to students, children for families, jobs for the unemployed and health for the sick.
Well, all that’s done now and as I start reflecting on this yearly’s tradition, I recall all the patience I had to put up with the spouse. It’s just amazing how the different attracts when one is dating. Why, I believe it’s because the opposite is all that you are not. So it is kind of fascinating to hear about all the things this other person is doing which are just not you! And during courtship, one is blinded to all those little ‘hints’ of incompatibility. So couples dated, engaged, married and settled into their little love nest. Well, maybe for the first few years, it’s still honeymoon period. But slowly, but surely all the ‘incompatibilities’ start surfacing.

For me, it’s as simple as how I decorate the flowers in a vase. I arranged a nice vase of flowers on the dining table. An hour later after I had showered, checked some emails; I found that my flowers had been changed in to two vases. His method of arranging flowers and my method is totally different. It’s just amazing how one sees things differently by just arranging a vase of flowers. He likes it arranged sparsely so he split the one vase of flowers in to two vases as he felt the flowers look too ‘packed’ in one vase!

Similarly on how we hanged those cute, auspicious decorative items on the cherry blossom plant. I would hang lots of it all around the plant. Two hours later, he will take half of it out. He said looks too cluttered!

It really drives me up the wall that such a minor stuffs which are not at all a man’s role should irritates me so much. I would assume that these kind of nitty gritty stuffs be left to women to handle. But looks like he wants to meddle in to all these small stuffs too. And it makes me feels like I can’t do things my way at all.

I have a friend, Jane who had almost the same kind of incompatibility with the husband, Jim. Jim would usually asked, “What do you think if we rearrange the furniture by moving this sofas around so that the TV now is on the opposite?” Jane would look at it and commented, “It looks good as it is now. The TV would look odd at the opposite side, as the space is too big. Let’s just leave it.” And with that Jane thought that’s it. Don’t move. By evening when Jane comes home from office, guess what? The furnitures’ moved. Jane fumed. It’s just an instant reaction I supposed. Jane matched up to Jim, “I thought we don’t move cos it really looks odd with the sofas now all crammed over this side.” Jim defended, “I just want to see how it actually looks, I just can’t visualized it when you said that. Ok, no problem, I move it back.” And so after a hard day’s work, after cooking and dinner, Jane has to rearrange all her living room stuffs.

And it seems to have got worse, now he’s even stepping into her territory. He starts rearranging all the stuffs in her kitchen cabinets! Jane is still very patient although she’s damn upset that her opinion does not matter as far as Jim’s concerned. And in her mind, she’s just waiting for her kids to grow, so that she can start living her own life. Arranging her house the way she likes.

Do you have any stories to share of your other half “quirks”? Share your story to all our friends here. And it need not necessary be the women as men too would want to have their say, am sure.

Won’t you want to have a “perfect” Woman? Or a “perfect” Man?

Am not sure if any of you have heard about this “perfect” woman? She’s willowy 5 feet 7 and 120 pounds. She can chat on any subject with you. She can even impersonate personalities of movie stars! Now isn’t that a dream come true for men whose being fantasizing about making out with movie stars! What’s even more important to men, she’s ever ready for sex, anytime! The men won't hear of “Sorry Honey, I have a headache tonight”. Now isn’t that “perfect” to men, who are always so preoccupied with sex! And even more “perfect”, men can just switch her off if she talks too much or if she starts nagging.



Meeeeet Roxxxy, claimed to be the world's most sophisticated talking female sex robot. And she’s yours for life, for only a mere USD7,000!

And as I read this article, I thought this would be “perfect” to women. Think about it. Instead of thinking negatively that men soon can substitute us, real flesh and warm blooded women, am thinking that this might just be a “perfect” gift for husbands!

Imagine a typical working wife’s schedule. She gets up early morning at 6am. Wake up the kids, getting them ready for school. She had to prepare breakfast for the kids. Next tidy up the house before she gets herself ready to leave for office. She spent the next 8 to 10 hours in office. By 6pm, she has to leave to pick up the kids from babysitter. Once home, she cooked simple dinner, had dinner with the kids, cleaned up the kitchen thereafter. Then she puts in the clothes into the washer. Check that the kids do their homework. Then put them to bed. And just as she’s thinking that finally she’s going to have a good night rest, the husband wants to make love.

Am sure some of you, women readers, can relate this to your daily life. How many times, you had to give some excuses. And for some of you, you will accomodate your husband's wishes but with lack of passion as you are just physically, mentally tired. Or worse, you might just fell asleep in the midst of the love making, which is an insult to his ego. And no matter how you try to be the “perfect” woman to him, he can certainly sensed your reluctancy, your lack of enthusiasm.

So now imagine, if the working wife has this “perfect Roxxxy” woman at home. She don’t has to worry that eventually her man is going to get a lover, a mistress or worst still, go to a prostitute! There’s certainly no fear of competition for her of this “perfect Roxxxy” woman. “Perfect Roxxxy” is her temporary ally. “Perfect Roxxxy” can keep him company whilst she enjoy a quiet moment of peace, go for her spa, or spend time with her girlfriends, whilst he gets himself entertained with this “perfect Roxxxy” that will pander to every sex wish that he wants.

So what do you ladies think? Would you be jealous of “perfect Roxxxy” if your man has one?

And if there’s such an ‘emotional companion’ for men, I would like to think that it’ll be great if there’s also an ‘emotional companion’ for women too! Would ladies out there want to owe a “perfect Rocky” too?

For more on “perfect Roxxxy” article, click and copy this link:
http://edition.cnn.com/2010/TECH/02/01/sex.robot/

Confessions of Married Men, The Secret Lives of Married Men

THIS IS AN INTERESTING ARTICLE. IT’S LONG BUT IT REVEALS WHAT “SOME” HUSBANDS THINK. ALTHOUGH I BELIEVE THAT HUSBANDS, LOVERS OR BOYFRIENDS (“HLB”) ALL THINK THE SAME. YOU MIGHT BE SURPRISED OF WHAT YOU’LL LEARNT FROM THESE “HLB” CONFESSIONS

For more detailed reading, copy and paste this link:
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/men/article6992299.ece?token=null&offset=0&page=1

OTHERWISE, JUST ENJOY READING THE SNIPPETS :

1ST Confession

Wives, here is a fact you definitely don’t want to know about your husband: he wants to shag your best friend. Not only does he want to shag your best friend, but also your second and third-best friends. (And fourth, fifth, sixth, etc.) There’s nothing personal about this. In fact, in a strange way, he means it as a compliment. You see, one of the many delightful things he has noticed about women is that they tend to associate with women who are on a roughly similar level of pulchritude and general hotness. So what he’s sorta, kinda saying when he fancies your friends is how much he fancies you. But he’d never try articulating any of this to you. It’s just one of those many things that Wives Just Don’t Understand.

OBVIOUSLY WIVES/LOVERS/GIRLFIRENDS (“WLG”) DON’T UNDERSTAND. COS THAT’S SCARY IF ALL MEN THINK LIKE THAT. MEANS LADIES CAN’T BRING THEIR BEST FRIEND HOME!!! AND WHAT NONSENCE THAT IT’S ACTUALLY A COMPLIMENT TO THE “WLG”!!!

Confessions of a Married Man

2ND Confession

Being the main breadwinner has other advantages, too, such as never having to disclose to your wife how much of your earnings you are blowing on your vices. “Sports betting is my fatal addiction,” says Simon. “You can lose so much so quickly. The Ashes cost me an absolute fortune, especially Ponting’s batting. He’s normally so reliable, but towards the end of the series he just wasn’t making the runs. This is the sort of detail you don’t trouble your wife with. But do I feel bad about it? Not really. If you earn a lot, you can afford to lose a bit.”
Kevin, 39, a teacher, has rather less to lose, but he has managed to run up a large credit card bill that he has resolutely kept secret from his wife. “Amazon 1-Click ordering has been my vice. I’m not sure when I’m going to finally clear my debts, but till then, what the wife doesn’t know isn’t going to hurt her, is it?”
For Holden, where expenditure is concerned, the “rule of thirds” applies. “Suppose you’ve blown £600 on a flat-screen TV. When she asks you how much, you tell her £400. It’s exactly what they do with us when we ask them how much their new coat cost, so it seems only fair.”

WELL, LOOKS LIKE THERE’S SIMILIARITY BETWEEN THE TWO SEXES HERE. WE ALL KNOW “WLG” DO THE SAME TOO. AS PER MY EARLIER POSTING 'Is it ok to tell a White Lie...If it's for the Right Reason' “WLG” LIES TOO. "WLG" HIDE WHAT THEY SPEND ON SHOPPING FOR SHOES, BAGS, COSMETICS, JEWELLERIES, ETC. DO YOU THINK YOUR "HLB" EVER LIE TO YOU ON THINGS HE PURCHASED?

3RD Confession

Now, sex, which occupied by far the most important part in all the conversations I had – largely because, as one husband put it, “It’s what we think about more than anything else.

Journalist and author Rod Liddle, himself a reformed roué, says: “I reckon 90 per cent of married men – if they could be guaranteed to get away with it – would have affairs.” And as far as desire is concerned, he is probably right. “God, I’d just love to have some completely meaningless sex with some gorgeous girl I’d met on a business trip,” admits Simon. “But not at the expense of my marriage.”
“It is not natural for a man to be monogamous,” says Steve Wichett, who estimates that over a given period, between 35 per cent and 40 per cent of husbands will have affairs (though other surveys put the figure as high as 60 per cent). “Monogamy is an arrangement he makes with himself, either through reasons of fear or lack of opportunity.”

That’s the problem with us men. No matter how old or ugly we are, no matter how secure and happy we are in our relationships, there’ll always be a small part of us that yearns to answer our atavistic urge to spread our gene pool as widely as we possibly can.

WELL, LOOKS LIKE “WLG” JUST HAVE TO ACCEPT IT. JUST HAVE TO PUT THEMSELVES IN THE SHOE OF HOW THEY JUST CAN’T STOP THINKING OF NEXT SHOPPING! WELL THERE WAS A REPORT THAT ‘MEN THINK ABOUT SEX 5,000 TIMES A YEAR'! LOOKS LIKE THIS CONFESSION IS WELL SUPPORTED. AS LONG HE KEEPS IT TO THINKING, THAT'S FINE!

4TH Confession

“I didn’t have sex with a man until I was 34. At the time, my wife was pregnant with our first child. Before that I’d had girlfriends, and enjoyed the sex, though not as much as I did with men.”
The surprising bit – and Barry should know – was just how many married men out there are secretly gay. “And I don’t mean bisexual. Hardly any men are. They’re just gay men in denial or living a lie,” he says. “It happened more times than you’d ever imagine. I’d go out to parties, bars, clubs, with my wife, and after a few drinks another of the married men would ask if I was gay. Things used to happen from there.”

I WONDER WHICH IS WORST? TO HAVE MY MAN CONFESSED HE HAS AN AFFAIR WITH A GIRL OR THAT HE HAS AN AFFAIR WITH A MAN! HOW ABOUT YOU ALL, EVER THOUGHT OF WHICH IS WORST?

5TH Confession

What the internet does is help us to sublimate our desires in a socially acceptable way,” says Kevin, who thinks his wife probably is aware of his internet porn use, but would prefer to pretend it didn’t happen. According to Godson, internet porn definitely belongs to the category of things it’s best not to mention to your partner.

IF GIVEN A CHOICE BETWEEN HIM SURFING PORN AT HOME OR HE HAVING AN AFFAIR, THEN I RATHER HE SURF PORN. ALTHOUGH SOME MIGHT SAID WHY SHOULD THERE BE A CHOICE? HE SHOULD BE HAPPY, CONTENTED WITHE ME!

6TH Confession

I think women are the most clever, calculated deceivers of all. I remember once still being on top of a girl when she picked up the phone to speak to her boyfriend. I couldn’t believe it. She cancelled his call twice, but then took it the third time he rang.
“What I have learnt from the whole process is that relationships and marriages are not black and white. I never wanted to leave my wife; I love her and we have two lovely children. I am the first to admit that it is a very ‘Have your cake and eat it’ attitude, but I would go as far as to say that, perversely, the website is actually keeping my marriage together. It has put a spring in my step and I am happier at home now that this yearning is fulfilled. How long that will last I don’t know, but at the moment it is ticking all the boxes.”

I SUPPOSE TWO CAN PLAY THE GAME. MEN, TRADITIONALLY BEING ACCEPTED TO CHEAT. NOW WOMEN'S PLAYING THE GAME TOO, ESPECIALLY LIBERATED WOMEN. JUDGING FROM ALL THE PAST COMMENTS IN THOSE BLOGS, THINK WOMEN ARE SURE HAVING MORE FUN NOW :-).

7TH Confession

“I have been married since June, and have already told lots of little white lies. The thing is, sometimes men just have to lie. For example, I was playing cricket with my mates, which my wife – who was then my girlfriend – knew about, and I left all of my kit locked up in the clubhouse. The game went on for a while, and when we finally finished I went back to my bag to find I had 26 missed calls, 11 text messages and 7 voicemails, which started off asking, ‘Where are you?’ and culminated in ‘Why are you avoiding me? The marriage is off.’

THIS IS TYPICAL. AM SURE MOST WOMEN THINK THE SAME IF MEN DON'T ANSWERED THEIR MOBILE PHONE…."HE MUST BE WITH SOME GAL! OR HE MUST BE SHAGGING SOME GAL!" BUT OF COURSE, MANY TIMES, IT'S JUST BEEN GENUINELY CONCERNED. COS WHEN HE DON'T ANSWER, "WLG" BE WORRYING IF HE'S ALRIGHT.

8TH Confession

These days, I don’t lie about anything. I’ve learnt from bitter experience that you will either get found out or the lie sits there and congeals. When I was married the first time, I wasn’t entirely faithful; I told porkies about all sorts of things. In the days before mobile phones, it was a lot easier. You could call from a phone box in Dartford, and pretend you were in Edinburgh on business, and she was none the wiser, so long as you could remember the lie and stick to it.

“I almost got caught once, though. My first wife went away for a few days, and a female friend came round to, er, play. When she left, I cleaned the flat top to toe. My wife came back, walked in and said, ‘Why is this place so clean? Why have you spring-cleaned? You’ve been up to something.’ She went into our bedroom, picked up a hairbrush and found a long blonde hair in it. My wife was Japanese with short, black hair.

I WOULD DO THE SAME TOO, IF I RETURNED HOME TO SEE THINGS EXCEPTIONALLY CLEAN WHEN IT'S NOT HIM HABIT TO CLEAN UP!!! HE MUST BE UP TO SOMETHING! :-)