Taking Good Life for Granted!

Is there such thing as ‘taking the good life for granted’?

I have always believe in having faith, in thinking positively and in being blessed with good luck, good fortune always. It’s because whenever things seem to be going wrong, it will somehow straighten itself out within a week or two for me.

One of my ex-colleagues too has being having a good life with everything smooth sailing until she loses her job early this year. She couldn’t believe that finding a job is so difficult for her as she has all the relevant experiences in that particular field. After exploring with countless headhunters, even to the point of going into Jobstreet for her senior level, she is now sinking into depression for the first time in her life.

I try to console her with the only believe that I think will work.

I believe that each and every one of us will somehow experience a down time in our life at least once, if not a couple of times. And I can only encourage those that are experiencing this down time to stay motivated by thinking of this one key point.

Think Positive! Stay Positive!

I believe that a positive mind will radiate a positive aura around you. A positive aura in turn will somehow attract good luck to you. And this good luck will attract all the positive opportunities to you.

Just as joyful people attract laughter and happiness. This theory works the same with thinking and staying positive.

Some of you might say, it’s easier said then done. This I agreed. It is very difficult to keep feeling positive after receiving negative news for each interview that you had thought was a good interview.

Hence, the trick to staying positive is to turn negative thoughts away the minute you realize you are thinking negative thoughts. It is not easy to switch your thoughts immediately but with consciousness and persistency, you will eventually master this.

It’s almost like meditation. When a thought arises, you are suppose to just notice the thoughts, to know that you are thinking and to try to get back to meditation again.

As always ‘practice makes perfect.’ Hence, with a conscious thought, you will eventually train your mind to think positive, thus to stay positive.

To all that are going through ‘down times’ now, may you all be blessed to overcome this soon and to be well and happy, well and happy, well and happy. God Bless. Amen.

In parting, here's 'How to train your brain to stay positive.'

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I Hate You, Mom.

To all fans,

Am back after a long break. It has been an eventful long break. I had changed my blog to “AskWomen” after considering the good advices from fans and friends. #AskWomen because the topics discussed here are universal to women all over the world. It makes good sense.

I had also embarked on my book finally and had started e publishing the book titled ‘Broken Dreams’ via this great ‘wattpad’ app. - http://www.wattpad.com/44209175-about-broken-dreams

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Well, am starting off my renamed blog with this topic - “I Hate You Mom.”

As a Mom with teenage and adult children, I can understand how another Mom would feel when her ‘grown’ child blames her for the family break-up and telling Mom that “She Hates Her.’ This is not in the heat of moment like how a little child would said it because she couldn’t get to buy her favorite toy but it was said during a serious discussion in a serious tone.

This Mom is devastated; confused that she now even thinks it is truly her fault that the family broke up.

I just can’t see this Mom going through the pain knowing that she has done everything she could to save the marriage. Many chances were given to her spouse, the dad. Even to the extend of buying ‘help’ books to assist him. Finally to even, listing out the things that each spouse should change.

But dad didn’t change or couldn't change. So Mom just need to have an outlet to confide to someone. It so happens that Mom broke down at that moment when she was with a ‘guy’ friend. Guy friend was sympathetic, listened well, knowing when to offer advice and when just to listen. And so each confession becomes more regular and one thing leads to another. And an affair begins.

So the Mom had an affair. But don’t all Moms agree that a Mom would never ever have an affair if her marriage were a happy marriage. Especially Mom with growing up kids. I was once a working Mom too. And I understand how busy a working Mom is, having to rush back from office to attend to their children, not to mention the many chores awaiting them. Why would a Mom get herself into an affair when she doesn’t even have time for herself?

Of course, Dad found out about the affair. There were many serious quarrels, accusations thereafter. As the child was still young than and for the child sake, both stayed together. But the child was an only child and she had experienced the love of a pair of doting, loving parents with happy family meal time, happy outings, and holidays together since she was a toddler. Then she saw all the quarrels, the separate holidays, separate meal time, the non-harmonious atmosphere at home which the Dad did not bother to keep these ugly scenes from her. Whilst the Mom had always taken care to keep all the unhappiness, the arguments she was going through from her daughter. Which of course resulted in the daughter blaming the Mom for the family break-up, as she has not seen any quarrels prior to Mom having an affair.

All these affected her through her growing up years and the feelings built up inside her that she just let it all out on that particular day, just before she leaves home for college – ‘I hate you. You were the one that broke up the family. You were the one that causes Dad to be this way because Dad was so devastated!’

Before my readers here can judge. I should give some background to the issues that the poor Mom was facing - Dad’s heavy drinking to the point of being an alcoholic. And like most alcoholic, Dad talks more when drunk. More abusive – only verbal abuse – thank goodness. Finally to the point of bringing the abuse to the bedroom which we don’t need to go into the details. Of course being alcoholic means no exercise too and Dad gets bigger and heavier.

Hence, my dear readers, how would you advise the Mom?

I think there is no point in going into the fact of who’s right or who’s wrong.

The main concern is how would the relationship between the Mom and Daughter be salvaged. She has gone to college and likely will not be communicating much now with Mom. As the Chinese would said ‘Now you have wings, you can fly.’

Or how about share any story of similar “I hate you Mom." Either from your own experience or from a friend.

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